.: You Are My Girlfriend :.

"You're my girlfriend,
My only girlfriend,
You make me happy,
When skies are grey,
Lalalalalalala..."






When I first came to Bandung, I prayed to Allah to give me friends that suit me, friends that can teach me right from wrong, friends that can accompany me. "A friend in need is a friend indeed". Alhamdulillah, in this long journey, I got many wonderful friends.



In my observation, people who does not has real/close friend with similar gender will tend to have real/close friend with oppposite gender. These are people who involved in couple culture. We can see couple everywhere we go. Don't see too far. Just have a look at your surrounding.



The question is, how Islam look at this culture? Is couple culture is allowed in Islam? What is the best solution for couple?



'TIADA PACARAN DALAM ISLAM'
~ where I got this statement? forget already.
I don't have an ample time to search for this topic deeply but I want to share my opinion about this topic.



If you want to 'couple', it's ok as long as the objective is to marry him/her. This 'couple' period is for you to get to know each other well. However, during this period, you still cannot go out together (where only two of you).



I had accidentally asked my friend who has a boyfriend.
Me: When will you marry?
SHE: 26
Me: lamenye lagi.
SHE: takde duit maaa...
Me: kalo takde duit, tak yah la pacaran. buat nambah dosa je. (^_^)




The point here is, if you are already ready to get married (money, instinct, knowledge), only then you are allowed to find your suitable life partner/couple. If you are still not ready yet, lupakan je le...



The aim for a marriage is to get children that can pray for us and to get this children needs a big sacrifice. We must first educate ourselves and to restrain ourselves from doing things which is wrong from now. Find a good mother/father for our children is very important. So, imagine if the start to build a family is already messed with our immorality how can we born virtuous children in the future.



My advice for couples: Please evaluate what you have done since you coupled. Limit/diminish your dates because they waste your time, money.

My advice for uncoupled people: When you are ready to hold the responsibility to be a family leader, then it is your time to find a life partner.